Ok ladies, this is a little self-preaching, but I had to share it with you.  The other day I was thinking about how we get ready for Valentine’s Day and how we like to feel sexy and have the “Got This” attitude once we bring our A-game.  Also floating in my mind was the thought of all I would have to do to be ready for a nice date with the hubs.  So much work!  LOL!

When I thought of all the hats I wore just a few short hours before the date, I got tired just thinking…  I don’t know about you, but it seemed a bit much for me and I almost got discouraged about it all and almost decided to just hang it up and get resigned to the fact that “Sexy” and “Hot Mama” was just retired.

That was until one more slew of thoughts flooded my mind: Why? What will happen after Valentine’s Day if I decide to doll up and go?  After the romance and amazing night, will I turn back to the slowly faded person I tend to revert to as all the mommy responsibilities weigh heavily on me?

Why does it have to be this way?

Oh! I was mad now!  I am still this Hot Gal and I actually HAVE an A-Game!  Why should I let go of this Diva?  Why turn off the fire after VDay?  Most of us like very much who we see in the mirror when we are about to step out with our sweetie on Valentine’s Day, so why not like to see this person more often?

We might not keep it blazing hot like that night (or any other special occasion), but we can keep it in the high temps more often than not, right?

Ladies, here are some of the reasons why I decided to turn up the heat and strive to stay there.

We clean up nice

Indeed, ladies, we can actually bring it and like what we see.  When we are done with the nails, the hair, and taking off the pesky random hairs growing around our faces, I am sure you think: “Yes, this is me!”


We feel good inside and out

This is a great self-esteem booster.  Even when you pop that red lipstick, or even find time to file your nails, there is a little something that ignites inside.  Gradually, the mood starts lifting and suddenly the soccer-mom is driving around with a smile and is signing along with the kids’ newest heartthrob instead of yelling at the crazy drivers in traffic.

It’s all good for the romance

So you see how he looked at you when you stepped out in your VDay gear?  Imagine him looking at you like that a bit more often…  Boom!  Listen, help around the house comes quite fast because he cannot wait to spend a little one-on-one with you!  This is good for both of you and things get much smoother in your union.  It comes complete with less nagging, less aggravation, and more romance.  Who doesn’t want that!?!?!?

Of course, there are many other benefits to kicking things up a notch, but we would be here forever.  I think you get the picture: take care of yourself because you are worth it!

I have to also give the disclaimer that this is not going to be EVERY DAY… I am suggesting, though, that we reverse the game a bit: purposefully make the brighter days happen more than the overwhelming ones as we let ourselves go.

You will see, it is like a catch 22, the more you look and feel run down, the more things get difficult in life; consequently, the more you are determined and lift yourself with little things to make yourself look and feel good, you tend to have happier days.  And, I can even say, when the difficult days come, you are more sturdy to face them straight on and have the confidence to tackle and win over the challenges.

Let’s keep it up, ladies!  After all, we are WOMEN!  Too many of us succumb to stress and negativity.  The end game brings better self, better life, better families.  Are you with me on this?

Let me know in the comments below how you intend to lift it up Post-Valentine’s-Day!


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Martine Jolicoeur is a blessed wife, the mother of three precious children, and the creator of the MeUnfinished.com. Her passion is to inspire, empower and motivate people on their life journey.