I’m proud to be sharing this story with you as part of the Dove™ #LoveYourHair campaign. I hope it inspires you to think about the ways you can teach your little girl to love her hair and herself.

I’ve had quite the journey with my hair. As a child, I remember flinching every time my mom or grandmother tried to style my hair. With a head full of thick, coily hair, taking out all the knots and giving me a hairstyle I loved was never easy. When I was about ten years old, my mom allowed me to get a relaxer as a way to straighten my hair. I don’t think it had anything to do with her disliking the texture, but more to do with her desire to make my hair more manageable.

I continued to relax my hair until I was in my early thirties, and then I decided it was time to stop. Just like that. I realized that didn’t even remember what my natural hair texture was like. I wanted to take some time to fall in love with my natural hair.


My #LoveYourHair journey has had ups and downs, but I am so glad I decided to stop processing my hair. It was a decision I made before I even had a daughter, but now that I have a 4-year-old girl and another daughter on the way, I am proud of that decision, because it has taught me so much about hair, confidence, and self-love.

My hair is a large part of who I am, but my hair does not define who I am. I do that. But when I walk into a room, I hope my hair says, “I love who I am.”  I want my girls to experience that. I want them to walk into any room, with heads held high, proud of how they look and who they are. But I also want them to know that changing the way their hair looks doesn’t change how incredible the are–ever.


I have moments when I think about chopping all of my hair off again like I did when I started this natural hair journey. I might do it after I have my baby in April. Being so comfortable with that idea makes me smile. I am not concerned about the length of my hair or what other people think about my looks. My daughter sees the confidence I have when it comes to how I manage my hair. She sees me change the style and length and she realizes that although I love and care for my hair, my confidence comes from within.


When I look at my daughter, I am so proud of who she is. She smiles after I wash her hair because she loves the way it looks when it’s wet. She tells me how to style her hair, even if I don’t know what she’s talking about half of the time. She likes braids and puffs and buns. She loves when I massage her scalp and smiles when I tell her that she looks beautiful. And sure, she fusses and gets upset when I detangle or comb her thick and coily hair. That’s a part of her journey as a little brown girl. But it makes me so happy that she has never expressed a desire to change what she has. I look at her and I can say with confidence, ” I know you #LoveYourHair.”

As a mom, there is no better feeling.


So as I raise my girls, I hope I can always emphasize the importance of self-worth and confidence. I hope they are able to embrace what makes them unique, like their hair. I hope they can see the women around them, both family and friends, and understand that we weren’t all meant to look the same. That’s what makes life so incredible. We are all different. We all have beauty to share with the world. We all should love what makes us unique.

As moms, we want to teach our girls how important it is to #LoveYourHair, so let’s our best to celebrate their beauty today so they can love their hair tomorrow.

Use the Dove™ #LoveYourHair image-generator to create yours today. 

Dove™ Hair is committed to broadening the definition of beautiful hair, and I think that is such an important message. Through their efforts, Dove™ wants to ensure that hair is a source of confidence, not anxiety for both women and girls. Through this campaign, I hope I can help Dove™empower mothers to be leaders in their daughters’ hair confidence by teaching them how to love their hair.

Moms, what are you doing to help your little girl love her natural hair type? How did you learn to love yours?

Send Your Daughter a #LoveYourHair Message: 

Tell her why you love her hair and inspire her to do the same by creating and sharing a custom #LoveYourHair animated message with @Dove: http://bit.ly/2hiO3pv

This is a sponsored post written by me on behalf of Dove™.