I can be honest with you, right?
Here goes: I have too much going on!
You, too? I’m not surprised. Too many of us are playing on #teamtoomuch, trying to keep up with family, business, and so many other areas of our lives. Indeed, the struggle is REAL.
But I know I am not alone when I say that something’s got to give. No matter how strong or bright we are, there are only 24 hours in a day and being stretched too thin never turns out well. Never.
And on our quest to do too much and be too much, the areas of our lives that matter most tend to suffer. It’s not intentional. We really do care. But being caught up in a fog of busyness is a sure fire way to forget about other important things that really need your attention.
So how can we figure out what matters and how do we give those parts of our lives more attention?
We just do it. Yep, that’s all. We make a decision and follow through. I know that makes it seems so simple, and I also know it often doesn’t feel that way. But there really is nothing else to it. We are responsible for making a series of choices that allow us to live our best lives.
We have to decide what matters. And not just what matters, but what matters most.
Grab a notebook or a piece of paper (or do it in the your head if you are fly like that) and answer the following questions:
- Do you exercise regularly
- When was the last time you did something to pamper yourself?
- How much of your day is spent doing things that don’t matter to you?
- Are you truly present when you spend time with the people you love?
- What are you eating to nourish your body?
- Do you make enough time for spirituality?
- How much sleep do you get every night?
- Is there mental clutter you are holding on to for all the wrong reasons?
- Is your living space organized?
- Are you able to say “no” without apology?
These are tough questions to answer if you are being honest with yourself. I can tell you my personal truth is currently disappointing me. It’s been a challenging few weeks. I can’t answer all of these questions in a way that sits well with my soul. I got caught up. I’ve been stretching myself too thin and letting things that don’t matter invade my space. It can happen to the best of us.
But no more.
It’s time to get a grip. And I am not about to run off a list of New Year’s resolutions, because I don’t care for those too much. I think it can easily become a bunch of hype. If you really want to make something happen, you don’t need to wait until January 1st. Nothing magical happens on the first. Sure, it’s a new month and a new year, but it’s really just another day.
Another day where you get to make a series of choices.
Another day where you get to choose what matters to you.
So what’s the best way to find your joy and live a life you love? You have to decide that you are going to focus more on the areas that matter.
You can do that with 4 simple steps:
- Get rid of the noise. The noise is all the stuff in our lives that doesn’t matter. The commitments we make just because we feel bad if we don’t. The toxic people we keep in our lives because that feels easier than the potential drama associated with cutting them off. All the noise must go.
- Make your health a priority. Tomorrow is not promised. Being sleep deprived, snacking on fries daily, and failing to at least take a fun dance class as a form of exercise is setting you up for failure in countless areas of your life. Your heath matters… A LOT.
- Create your tribe. If you don’t have a group of people — YOUR people — that you can turn to at all times, this thing called life is going to be really, really tough. Creating a tribe and making the time to nurture those relationships is critical.
- Stop making self-care an afterthought. Your hair, your nails, that hot bath, the massage you’ve been hoping for… all of those things matter. If you cannot recharge and regroup, you end up running on empty. How can you get anything done living like that? Self-care needs to stop being something you do if you have the time. It needs to be something that matters enough for you to make the time to do it.
These steps are simple, but meaningful. If you make these areas a priority, you will be able to focus on other areas that matter with ease. The truth is, you have to get your mind and your body right before you can get clear on what else matters in your life. Trying to figure that out while you’re slowly falling apart is a lost cause.
Because I know the first day of the new year is just two weeks away, I will place some emphasis on it. I may not be all about resolutions, but the start of a new year does matter.
January 1st doesn’t have to come with a set of resolutions, but it should come with a plan. A plan that allows you to get goals–real goals–and actually take action so you can achieve those goals.
I created a planning guide for 2016, and I think it might help you. It’s nothing complicated, but it’s straight to the point and very useful if you are trying to set goals for specific areas of your life and move towards making them happen. You can click here to grab your free copy.
So as we enter the last few days pf 2015, I want you to focus on what matters. That’s what I plan on doing. No long list of resolutions. No stress about all I want to do in the new year. Just a plan to focus on what matters.
I’d love to hear about what matters to you most and how you plan to focus on it more for the rest of 2015 and in the new year.