It’s been a while since I wrote a very personal post. It’s about time for one, right?
Well here goes.
2016 has not been what I thought it would be. I’ve faced a few unexpected challenges and I’ve had to figure out how to wrap my head around those challenges before taking next steps.
I’m not complaining. God has been good to me this year. But there have been more tears than I care to admit. I’ve faced frustrations, fear, and anxiety. I’ve had doubts about some of my decisions and concerns about what I should do next.
And I am sure you’ve experienced some of these feelings, too. It’s part of the human experience.
Life can be scary. The unexpected can really drop us on our butts, wondering how we got to where we are and what the hell we should do next.
But if there is anything I’ve learned this year, it’s this: Being scared is not a good enough reason to not do something.
Being scard is a real emotion. I won’t minimize the rawness of fear for one second. I am scared almost every day. But being scared can also become a cruch and an excuse for not taking action. We try to use our fear to rationalize our inaction. I get it because I’ve done it myself. But it’s a bunch of crap. If fear is your only reason for not doing something, you need to get up and do it.
But what if you feel like you just can’t? What if you feel paralyzed by your fears?
Then you develop a strategy. You get ready for battle. And you fight like your life depends on it–because it does.
I’m not kidding. This is a fullblown fight. Life or death. If you don’t prepare yourself for battle, fear will win. It will consume you. It will defeat you. Is that what you want? I hope not because it’s certainly not what I want for you.
So how do you create this strategy and what does that even mean? Recently, I ready a book called Fervent: A Woman’s Battle Plan to Serious, Specific and Strategic Prayer by Priscilla Shirer. I highly recommed the book. In it she talks about the importance of developing a prayer strategy to help us stay connect to God and win some of the toughest battles of our lives through relentless prayer.
I think developing a strategy to fight against fear is just as important. If you want to go against anything that is consuming your life, you have to be specific about what you plan to do and you have to do it consistently. There’s no other way. Without those elements, you lose focus. You may even forget what you’re fighting for.
I want to share a few tips to help you on this journey towards conquering fear so you can begin changing yor life. Be sure to stay with me until # 5 because I also have a great giveaway–a ticket to a conference you don’t want to miss!
1. Develop a Prayer Strategy
As I mentioned earlier, I recently finsihed Priscilla Shirer’s Fervent. I really think this book is a grea read for anyone who wants to get more specfic and strategic about prayer. When we are faced with fear, it’s often no coincidence. It’s a planned attack to keep us away from the greatness God has planned for us. I firmly believe that prayer is the most powerful tool you can have when it comes to winning your battle against fear. With God on your side, you will come through stronger than you ever thought you could be.
2. Build Your Tribe
In the last two years, I have become more and more focused on building and nourishing a strong tribe–a group of people I love and trust. People who I know will always have my back. Now you can’t let any ol’ body into your tribe, so take your time. My tribe has been in the making for YEARS. But you also cannot do this alone. We were not meant to travel this journey alone. You need support. You need encouragement. You need love. You need help. Without these things you end up exhausted, frustrated, and discoouraged. Build your tribe because these are the soldiers who will help you fight through fear and reach your true potential.
3. Be Still
Nothing beats the power of stillness. I think fear is often the result of too much noise. We compare ourselves to others. We think we are coming up short. We wonder if we are good enough. It’s a lot. Sometimes you have to find the time and space to be still. Remove the noise from your life. Forget what other people say. Just find time to consistently connect with the calmness within so you can get clear on where you are and where you want to be in your life.
4. Build Your Confidence
Without a reasonable amount of confidence it’s incredibly hard to move foward and take action. When we doubt our abilities, we stay stuck. To conquer fear, we must slowly develop the ability to believe in ourselves and our ability to reach our goals–even if those goals terrify us. And while confidence won’t eliminate your fears, it will surelt give you the courage you need to take action despite your fears.
5. Meet New People
In addition to forming an amazing tribe, you have to get out there and meet new people. What role will these people play in your life? You have to meet them and get to know them so you can find out. New people can become anything from aquaintances to business partners to members of your tribe. But you have to be willing to get out there and meet them. I’ve met amazing people at all kinds of events and functions, and last year I was able to meet several wonderful women at the Play Time is Over Women in Business Conference, hosted by my amazing coach, Cheryl Wood. It was an excellent opportunity and I am so glad I attended.
So now that you are equppied with a few helpful strategies, are you ready to take action? I hope so. I want to see you kick fear in the butt and get things done. That’s why I am hosting an incredible giveaway and I hope you enter.
Would you like to attend the Play Time is Over Women in Business Conference this November 11-12 in Arlington, VA? Wait! Before you answer that, let me give you the scoop.
The Play Time is Over Women in Business Conference is a conference designed to educate and empower women who are ready to take action. Through amazing keynotes, panel discussions, power talks, and professional networking opportunities, this conference is designed to help you think bigger and make moves that will lead to sucess in your own life.
Last year, I was an attendee at the conference and it was actually the first step in becoming one of Cheryl’s clients (although I’ve had my eye on Cheryl for a few years… ya’ll know I have trust issues, LOL). This year, I will be at the conference again and will also be one of the Tabletop Facilitators, giving me a chance to engage with attendees in a meaningful way during the conference.
And with a great line up of speakers and activities, I don’t see why anyone would want to miss this opportunity to attend the conference at no cost (tickets are $199). Plus, I am almost certain you need a weekend away. Almost all of my readers do. This is your chance to learn, grow, and network right before the start of a new year–a new opportunity to take action and fulfill your purpose in life. Oh, did I mention who the keynote speakers are? Check this out:
Yes! Sheryl Lee Ralph and Vernice “Fly Girl” Armour. Two very accomplished women who want to share their stories with you. They want to inspire you. They want to remind you that you have greatness within, and you can reach all of your goals if you are well-equipped and ready to look fear dead in the face and say “get out of my way, now!”
In addition to the fact that I know you will have a great experience, I also want you to attend because I will be there and it’s just really awesome when I meet any of my readers in person. I love the virtual world, but nothing beats in real life, right?
And I should be clear that you have a great chance of winning because thanks to the generosity of the amazing Cheryl Wood, I am giving away 5 tickets! Yes, I said 5!
So enter below for your chance to win! I hope to see you in November!