Give anyone a choice between chaos and peace, and they will undoubtedly choose peace. Peace of mind is what we all strive for. No matter who you are, or what you do, no one wants to feel overwhelmed, stressed out, or weighed down from the day-to-day burdens of life. We want freedom, joy, and the peace that comes with it.

When we are unable to find inner peace, it carries over into the areas of our lives that matter most. It is impossible to have a happy, peaceful marriage if you are struggling with unresolved pain that robs of you of your peace of mind. Sure, you can do your best to ignore what’s disturbing your peace, telling yourself that’s what’s best for your marriage, but ultimately the truth will rise to the surface and what was once just a lack of inner peace begins to disturb your marriage it its core.

Going through life and trying to sustain a happy, healthy marriage without some peace of mind is painful and challenging. And so, the million dollar questions is, how do we find peace? Well, there is no easy fix, so nothing I am about to share will give you peace by tomorrow. However, if you are up to the challenge and truly want to see a change in your life, I do believe these tips will help you get closer to peace than you ever imagined.

Here are 6 tips to help you take your life and marriage to a peaceful place.

Focus on Forgiveness

Most of our feelings of unrest in life stem from an inability to forgive—others and ourselves. Forgiveness is key if you intend to find peace of mind. We often think we’ve forgiven, but the pain attached to a situation still plays a major role in how we move through each day—haunting us at every turn. Forgiveness is a process and going through that process successfully frees us from whatever is holding us down. Learn to forgive and you are well on your way to finding peace.

Communicate with Clarity

Life would be so much simpler if your spouse could read your mind, right? Then you wouldn’t have to spend so much effort making sure they received your messages in the way you intended. But we all know that none of us are married to mind readers. That said, frustration and confusion often occurs as a result of being unclear when you deliver a message to your spouse. Being clear about what you mean, want, and need can spare you and your spouse a lot of stress and confusion, and that can lead to more peace for everyone.

Talk to God

The most peaceful and centered people I know have spent a great deal of time strengthening their relationships with the Lord. Sometimes the burden weighing against you is so heavy, going to the Source of all things is best way to help you find your way through the darkness and back to peace.

Learn to Let Go

You cannot change the past. We all know that, but despite this knowledge we can hold on to what once happened with every fiber of our being. For they sake of our own peace of mind, we have to learn how to truly let go. Moving forward with purpose and clarity is the only way to live a joyful life. Yes, we should all learn from our past, but holding on to things you want to change but cannot, won’t serve you well.

Be More Patient

Patience is a virtue, indeed. We all have to understand that things will not always unfold in our chosen timeframe. We must accept that everything is as it should be and stressing over things happening at the speed we desire won’t change much. Having patience with the people you love, as well as with the way your life is unfolding, is life changing.

Declutter Your Life

There is definitely some truth to the saying, “less is more.” The less you have cluttering your space and your mind, the more you will find in life. Take the time to remove what doesn’t matter and clear your life and your mind for the kind of peace that will leave you feeling happy and free.

Embrace Your Personal Truth

When we stop living to please others, embracing who we truly are and what we truly want out of life, peace is abundant. If you top trying to please everyone and just be who YOU want to be, peace will surely follow.