Life can be wonderful, but sometimes the most wonderful things can hit us where it hurts, leaving us wondering what’s next. I’ve been there. One minute you feel on top of the world and then you receive news that is so devastating you just want to crawl under your covers and sleep–hoping you can wake up to find it was all just a dream.
But after you awake from your slumber, you realize that it wasn’t a damn dream and you are now left with figuring out how to pull things together and get your life back on track. It can feel impossible. I mean, putting together a bookshelf from Ikea can feel impossible, so imagine the process of putting together your life.
And sometimes, maybe what we are struggling with is not necessarily devastating, but the pain is still very real. Maybe we feel so stuck in our current situation that we can’t see a way out. Maybe we poured our heart and soul into something and we failed–in a way that feels EPIC. Or maybe we just feel like life keeps knocking us down over and over again, and getting back up is starting to feel like a joke.
So what do you do? How do you move forward, set goals, and make things happen when you feel like life is daring you to do so? There is no magic pill and it won’t be easy, but I think these tips will help. Even if you feel like closing this window right now, please don’t. Keep reading because the voice telling you to close the window is not the voice you want running shit in your life. Listen to the voice telling you that the tips just might help so reading them is definitely worth a shot. That is the voice that wants to see you win.
Here are 5 tips to help you make things happen in your life (the things you WANT to see happen, of course) when you feel like life is just straight hitting you below the belt.
Create a circle of positivity.
You may be surrounded by people who love you dearly, but if they have also become the circle of people who always let you vent and they cosign every grievance you have about life, you may need to shift your focus for a bit. I am not suggesting that you no longer need this particular circle of friends. I am simply suggesting that creating a new circle can help. Look for the people in your life who tend to maintain a positive outlook, offer fresh perspective, and do a good job of convincing you that the universe is NOT against you. Those are the people you need in your ear when life just starts to feel like too much. And remember, I am not talking about bullshiters who serve you fluff and tell you what you want to hear. I am talking about realistic people who know life is hard, but also know that life is pretty darn good.
Don’t get mad at me because I know this just seems so typical, but I just have to say it. You need to get off your butt and move (assuming you aren’t already). Exercise is not just good for your body, but it can completely shift what is going on in your mind. When you exercise, just that small act of doing something for yourself makes you feel better about what lies ahead. Don’t feel like you need to train for your first 5k (although that is a great idea), but do something everyday that gets you moving–even if it’s a little bit. It matters.
Practice being present.
Let go of the past, stop stressing about the future, and focus on the here and now. We live in a time where most of us are failing miserably when it comes to being present. When we are doing something–anything–we are so focused on something else. Being present helps you enjoy the good moments in your life more and it stops you from focusing on moments that went wrong or stressing out about moments that aren’t even here yet.
Make a list of lessons learned.
If we go through trials and come out unclear about what the lesson was, something else will show up in our lives to teach us that same lesson. If you feel like you are being knocked down over and over again, you have to pause and ask yourself if there is a critical lesson you keep missing. Make a list of lessons learned and really give some thought to whether or not your are missing anything. I believe that everything in life has a lesson or a blessing in it. What lessons have you learned when you’ve been down?
Make a decision about what’s next.
We both know that you can’t change anything that already happened. It’s done. What you can do, however, is make a decision about what you’d like to see happen next and take a step towards making it a reality. Just decide. Don’t let what you can’t change control your next move. When life knocks you down get back up, make a decision and make things happen.