My hair journey is simple, yet complicated. I chopped my hair off for the first time in 2012. It was pretty short, but long enough for my hair stylist to hook me up with coils. It was a big move for me because I had never worn short hair in my life. Frankly, I never messed with my hair styles much. A relaxer and a basic wrap did the trick, and my ponytail was my low-maintenance go-to.
I don’t have some deep story about why I decided to go natural. The truth is that in December of 2011 I got a relaxer, and my edges started to thin out–a bit too much for my taste. Determined to avoid having bald edges–because I am not about that life–I decided that relaxers probably needed to get the boot. I spent the next few months growing my hair out, but finally I got annoyed with the whole process (plus I was tired and pregnant) so I decided to chop it.
Almost a year later, I had a horrible salon experience where too much heat caused excessive damage. I tried to hold on to those dead ends for a few weeks until I decided I was over it. Well, actually, my husband decided I was over it. He sat me down and said,
“Babe, you really need to just chop your hair off again. You seem miserable.”
I knew it was time. This is a man who wasn’t thrilled when I said I was going natural the first time. But he was right, I was miserable and I was holding on to lifeless hair out of principle. Very stupid. I let it go. And this time, I cut it even shorter than I did the first time. It was liberating.
Now it’s been over a year since “big chop # 2.” My hair is in pretty good shape. I have some damage in the center of my head, but that’s another post (I think I have a scalp condition that damages the center of my scalp because hair loss in the center of my head has been an issue for decades).
This hair journey has taught me a lot, but most importantly, it has taught me what my hair means to me — like on some real ish. I am committed to letting this fro grow out because I would love to have long, thick, natural hair with a twist-out that is so fly every head will turn when I walk into a room. However, with that said, I think there are a few instance that would make me chop it all off again… with ease.
Here are 5 reasons I would chop my hair off… again.
1. My daughter. My daughter is almost 2 and she has very short hair. I’m not concerned because I know it will grow eventually, but I have already decided that if it takes longer to come in than we expect, I will gladly chop my hair off to let her know that she is beautiful just the way she is, and short hair is dope.
2. My career. I have a ton of goals I want to accomplish in the near future. If things get hectic and I find myself traveling a lot, I will gladly cut it off again. I’d rather get some sleep than mess with my hair for 2 hours at night.
3. My health. God forbid I ever become sick, I would rather focus on getting well than worrying about my hair. Chop, chop.
4. Another summer pregnancy. I am 90% sure I am done having kids, but since they say God laughs at our plans, who knows, right? What I do know is this: Nothing feels better to a pregnant woman in the summer heat than wetting her hair every morning and running out the door. I loved it!
5. Because I can. I am honestly at the point where I know that the length of my hair has absolutely nothing to do with my fly factor. I will cut it off whenever I feel like it simply because I can.